Many thanks to Life by the Pages who nominated This Door is Alarmed for this award. Life by the pages writes a blog oozing with captivating quotes and fascinating snippets. I think you will have a great time if you drop by!
Sunshine Blogger Award Rules:
-Thank the blogger who nominated you.
-Answer the 11 questions asked.
-Nominate 11 other bloggers and ask them 11 new questions.
-List the rules and include the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post.
- If you could tell your teenage-self anything, what would that be?
“If only I could go back and tell myself X and Y,” we all say, assuming we could impart wisdom on our former selves, and assuming they would listen—but how many people gave us concrete advice as youngsters that we didn’t adhere to? If we didn’t listen to the advice of our loved ones, what chance is there we will listen to some creepy stranger who follows us around claiming to be a future version of ourselves and know what’s best for us? A few alarm bells ringing there!!!
I digress, but the ugly truth is, in my opinion, you have to make mistakes to learn, and those mistakes and their outcomes are all part and parcel of crafting and whittling the being you are today. Paradoxically, by this logic, if our wiser selves turned back the clock to impart knowledge on our younger selves, and somehow this saved those mistakes from being made, then, in that person’s adult years, they ironically wouldn’t have the wisdom to impart on our younger selves anymore.
So my answer would be, nothing. If I was taken back in time, speaking to my former self would be the last thing on my list.
- If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
If I could live anywhere and in any form, I would take the form of sentient data and live in the infinite matrixes of the internet, spending my life absorbing and imparting knowledge. If I was solely corporeal, I would choose Scandinavia, and hope I could keep up with the cost of living!
- What is your favorite film or book growing up?
She by Heinreich Rider Haggard. This was the influence for the appellation I chose for the purposes of this blog. It is a whirlwind African adventure set in the Victorian period. This book distilled me with the need to travel. I was enchanted by the exploration, the peoples, the animals, the pure ecstasy of living at its rawest.
- What kinds of things bring you joy?
Being such a broad topic, I found this difficult to answer. For me, joy is when you turn another’s frown upside-down, joy is giving, joy is the first fragile buds of spring and the unclothed warmth of sun on your back. Joy is tinkering the perfect metaphor or hassling a jigsaw-fit description. Joy is identifying with other human beings and appreciating their human qualities. Joy is experiencing the magnificent variation this planet contains. Joy is loving and being loved. Joy is a hundred thousand just-so moments that creep up on you and de-cork the internal bubbly.
- How do you handle fear in your life?
This is a difficult question to answer, because the way a person deals with fear depends on the type of fear. I would consider there are more types of fear than one, and each type may require different coping mechanisms. Off the top of my head:
- Fear of death or pain, or concern for wellbeing
- Fear of phobia
- Fear of criticism
- Fear of rejection
- Fear of loss
- Conditioned fear
- Fear of failure
Some of these may elicit the natural fight or flight response. Under these conditions I tend to fight; which is an unusual thing I learned about myself fairly recently. Who’d have thought that possible of a textbook introvert?
For most minor things that frighten me, I have my trusty Confidence Techniques. I created these as a way of increasing my confidence, but have found them useful in a wide range of scenarios:
- Challenge yourself once a day—and believe it or not, once you’re over the initial shock, it can be exciting rather than terrifying.
- Nobody is more important that you: nobody is less important that you.
- Walk with your head up—I know this seems inconsequential, but it has made a staggering difference to the way people react to me.
- Maintain eye contact—I found this one particularly difficult, as my method has always been to bury myself. Works wonders though!
- Stay planted: focusing on the insolvable is futile. I am here, there is no way out, there is nothing I can do to change that now.
- Breathe: a time-old trick. Take a deep breath, take your time.
- Take stock of the situation and answer accordingly: something my dad taught me to do when faced with difficult situations head-on. He was advising me to consider the context of my position carefully.
Of course, these would only work for some of the minor confidence or people-related fears, I am not suggesting you attempt ‘stay planted’ and ‘breath’ when you are faced with an encroaching house fire 🙂
- Where are you from?
Somewhere on the ground. It’s hilly. Leaves fall from the trees in November, there are fireworks of blossom in May, and we see the occasional grey squirrel—but never red. If it is not leaves falling from the sky it is rain, mostly rain and occasionally snow. We don’t have kangaroos or polar bears or penguins, but we do have cattle and sheep and mallards:) We like crackers and crumpets and plenty of tea, we like roast beef and gravy—and bananas are good too, even though we know we can’t grow them.
I am from Britain 🙂
- What would you like readers to take away from your blog?
I daren’t speculate! If they suffer from epilepsy or confidence issues hopefully there is some reassurance and advice, otherwise I am quite baffled! :O
Many kneely-down-y thank yous to all who have followed my story. Your presence, comments and friendship means the world to me. I cannot begin to find words for my thanks! You have injected me with so much confidence. I don’t know what I would do without you all. You make me smile every day. Ahem…soppiness over, sorry!
- What is your favorite quote?
As mentioned in This Door is Alarmed’s first Three Days Three Quotes Challenge: “Don’t let your dreams outnumber your memories.”
- Are you a tea person or a coffee person?
I have heard somewhere that tea should be sweet and coffee bitter. I do not abide by these rules.
Coffee is definitely bitter—so bitter that I have never found a taste for it. I don’t like the way its fetid little minions set up camp in your cakehole to spread a bile-esque after scent.
Tea, now tea is a warm and comfortable beverage I can sip on the same side as. I could talk tea for hours; Rose tea, cranberry tea, breakfast tea, lemon tea, chai tea, green tea, oolong tea—but never tea with sugar. That is surely sacrilegious to the sweet and fragile tea leaf.
*Cue sad music* But alas, my dear tea took a near deathblow recently on finding my nemesis lactose; breakfast tea and milk will no longer mingle in my mug.
- What is one thing you hope to achieve in 2018?
A lot more writing. Time is the issue!
- Do you honestly read the blogs from people that you followed?
I only follow people I know I will like and read. I try to keep up with reading. As far as I am concerned, it is only fair to follow if you are actually interested in reading their writing and being an active follower. I will never respond to follow for a follow, I will only follow you if I like your work and/or it lights a fire in my read-y-time requirements. I hope others do the same for me.
- What is your most treasured possession and what does it mean to you?
- What is your quirk?
- Of the blogs you follow, which is your favourite and why (please leave a reference to their site, and please choose a blog that you have not nominated)?
- What five things do you hope to accomplish in the next five years?
- If I was reading a book, with you as the main character, how would the author describe you?
- What do you wish you could change about yourself?
- What accessories or adornments do you wear around your fingers, neck, and arms, and what do they mean to you?
- If you could have a super-power, what would it be?
- What are you most proud of?
- What is one key thing blogging has taught you?
- What question do you wish I had asked you and what is the answer?